Hi dear friends and nannies,
i am just wondering if somebody could give me an advice as presently very close to give my notice. Working for a single mother since nearly 18 months, first in temporary contract then extended....to until she will be 18:-) but clear was, from the beginning, that the little one would go to a second nanny in the morning and then i would make the afternoons and evenings or nights.
Now, from the beginning of sharing this role, i was not happy with the choice as the morning nanny is at home with 4 other children ( the reason why the mother wanted this, as i was not living in the country and just came for caring for the little one and of course, resident nannies with children are a good solution) but it is a small apartment and she never goes out with the children, the radio is playing very loud on the terrace - just to hear if you are coming along the street - and inside the TV is on the whole day. We are on a Caribbean island, it is hot and every time i pick up the little one, she is sweaty - no AR there - very excited because she did not move that much in the 6 hours and is strapped in the transat although she is now 18 months and loves to walk and to explore the world and that is what we are doing in our time together. I started caring for her, she was 6 weeks old and we are a heart and soul. Now , she got sick very often the last times and because of my own experiences with my children and my nanny experience worldwide since over 17 years, i feel what is wrong or good and if the other nanny says : it is a dry cold and i say , it is a very deep cough, so the mother waits and then after the baby is getting over 40 degrees fever, we run in urgency to the doctor and she has a bronchitis with angina .....the same now with her little pop - sorry do not know the exact name - which is for me , since the beginning a pilin infection *mushroom? and not the common teething. The doctor confirmed this also but after 1 week the mother changed the creams, saying now, it is ok and now it is worse as tonight, even the water was hurting her and when she screams or needs help....she wants to be with me. So i guess, it is also a very big problem but believe me, i do everything to let the mother be involved and go in the background when she appears and encourage all the time the little girl to go to her mother and she refuses all. So now, i feel between 2 chairs, the mother and the other nanny and although i love this little one, i feel, i cannot manage it anymore. Please let me know your thoughts. I am happy to share more information as surely i miss the wood for the trees.....Thanks to all, for your patience to read this and to take the time to answer.